An Alien Invasion of Privacy

It’s been a hot minute since ya boy did the blog thing but the lovely Miss Mona came correct with that blog C.P.R. on the regular to make sure the kid stayed relevant with w’a gwan! Nahmean? Forgive the don lango going on here but you know how I tend to lose a few screws now and again, plus the fact I’m in the U S of A ain’t helping much as it’s altering my speech pattern terribly (holla) and I’m typing this at the Houston Hobby Airport, so ya boy is pimping with that southern drawl shawdy!!!

Well, this is the Martian Venusian (know it ain’t a word but what you call people from Venus?) POV on what this blog is. So please understand that the Venusian Martian version may vary but ultimately, we both in the same gang!

So without further ado (I over-use this line, no?), I bring to you, the 1st installment of WHAT THA BLOG? entitled:

The Alien Invasion of… Privacy

The Score

This case has to do with e-mailing. People’s habits differ but I’d like to think the general standard is that one’s e-mail box is his/her own safe haven. I have situations with 3 friends that I know of and have heard about several others where this has not been the case. For all I know, I might be an unknowing victim and that sucks. There have been murmurs that the CIA, FBI, KGB etc go through our e-mails which is just wrong if it is true but I’m not hollering out on that large a scale though. No sir, not at all. I am dealing with everyday people like you and me.

I am going to focus on two of the 3 instances but will highlight each of them. First has my boy giving his girl his password to check e-mails on his behalf. Nothing wrong with that, it’s his prerogative but I’d never do that.

Second has old girl playing MI6 agent and going through some MSN security checks to get her man’s password and go snooping around. Sheisty! She started chatting as him to try and get info plus proceed to cuss out other chicks (one in particular) in e-mails from his box after deciding on his infidelity. Gangsta!

And the third, I’m not sure if he gave her, she found it out herself (because she knows him so well) or she did the MI6 thing too but she did find it and go into his mailbox. She read his e-mail, caught him red handed and ended a long term relationship over it. Ouch!

I had a similar thing happen to me at work but cannot go into it due to legal restrictions (okay, that’s me glamorizing it but I can’t talk about it in this blog though).

So in essence, The Score is going into somebody else’s (primarily your significant other) mailbox and taking in an eyeful… What Tha Blog is up with that?

Blog Marley’s What Tha Blog Thoughts

I’d say the operational word is CRAZY!!! Well not really but I choose it because it is an element of the whole thing, however, there are other words that better describe this. I will get there eventually.

The MI-sick chick move has to be the lowest of the low and I don’t even have much in the way of words to say about that as it will be nothing nice. So I will deal with issue 3, from which you can take all I say, then add evil, nowhere-in-the-vicinity-of-nice aspects to it and that may come close to summing up how I feel about MI-freak!

So issue 3 has my good man’s love of many years going through his e-mail and finding evidence that the old dawg has strayed away from home. Now, even with Halle Berry in the midst of all that, there’s no way it can be pretty! The evidence is there and like Kelis sang, you’ve been caught out there and she probably hates you so much right now. She broke up with him and ended a relationship of several years. Most, I am sure, will support her decision. Betrayal is a muthablogga!

However, my stance varies a bit. Honey love, sweet girl and all, asked for it and she sure got it. I am sorry if this stance upsets anyone but that’s where I stand. What business did she have going through his e-mail? That is just not right! It is an invasion of his privacy and a violation of the unwritten but hallowed code of relationships. Don’t get me wrong, my dude did her dirty but that does not give her the right to go through his personal space. It is my e-mail, meant for me!

On her part, it hints at gross insecurity and a severe lack of trust. If these two factors exist, then why the hell are you in the relationship in the first place? Don’t think I am taking my boy’s side because he disagrees with me and maintains that he phruckked up so deserves what he got. Agreed, however, going into his e-mail is a low blow and lessens her credibility as far as I am concerned. He argued that the atmosphere for her to doubt him had been created. I am sure it had been but she must have asked him. If he lied to her (which he probably did) or even told her the truth, if his word wasn’t good enough for her and she didn’t believe him, then break up, not after stooping to such depths. It shows weakness on her part and that’s wrong.

If you read Mona’s blog, you’ll see the forum where I highlight the “fool factor”. It is clearly in operation here and has resulted in disaster. He is wrong for cheating on her but so is she for cheating on herself. You don’t put yourself out like that and play yourself. Poor girl. However, I cannot really sympathize with her because she asked for it. I mean, when you’re looking for something and you finally find it, shouldn’t you be glad? She went looking for something, found it and then got mad? You gets no love from Chichi on that one I’m afraid. Some may say I’m wrong for saying she should end it just like that but if you are spending all your time fretting with insecurity, you’re young yo! Get a move on and live your life, leave with your head held high instead of stooping to such lows and denting your credibility and respectability.

Blog Marley’s Blog Out

Regardless of what I say now though, the deed has been done but it was a WTB moment so I had to rant. Who is to say if he goes into her mailbox he may not find some interesting reading himself? It’s sad what’s happened but they are both wrong here. He really does love her and I’m sure she loves him still but a woman scorned… you know how that goes. I would just have expected more class and self respect from her. It just highlights the truth in one of my favorite sayings:

Those who look in other’s diaries get exactly what they deserve.

Blog Marley done. Let’s see how my sister-in-blog breaks it down. Uno!